Did You Know.....?

Did You Know that NJ has new Anti-bullying Laws? 

"No, you don't know what it's like
When nothing feels all right
You don't know what it's like
To be like me
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you're down
To feel like you've been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one's there to save you
No, you don't know what it's like
Welcome to my life" ~ Simple Plan


Whatever happened to the saying - treat others in the manner that  you would like to be treated?  If it were that simple, bullying would not exist.  The idea of this entry came to me this morning while watching the news.  A school district in NJ allows students to text, email, contact school counselors to inform them anonymously that they are being bullied or report occurrences that they observe.  Children often are embarrassed to speak out about bullying because at times they feel as if it is their fault or they never receive adequate help.  Being bullied is a horrible feeling.  The "bullies" are the ones that lack the self-esteem and maturity to treat others nicely.  Those being bullied feel like outcasts and think there is nothing that they can do to make it stop!  Well, parents, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, friends, teachers there is something you can do.  Teach children values - respect, love, caring, friendship; teach them to love themselves.   Bullying can turn into violence later on in life.  It is a very serious issue, one that should not be ignored.  In conjunction with building self-esteem, manners, and values;enroll your children into mixed-martial arts, they will learn how to protect themselves, and how to handle the bullying in the correct manner.   Remember, it doesn't have to hurt :(.  

As a parent, a person who was bullied (suffered in silence), as a citizen, as a person, I am all for the anti-bullying laws.  They are very much needed!  Honestly it is a shame, that people are complaining that they "cost" too much to implement - I am sorry that's BS.  The anti-bullying laws are extremely necessary to implement.  No life, a child's hurt or pain, is worth too much!  We pay enough taxes, tuition, etc. to support this movement.  Maybe they should develop a student group or a creative way to put a stop to bullying.  MMA schools could visit elementary, middle, or high schools to help spark the seriousness of bullying and how they can help in putting a stop to it.  There is a wealth of things that can be implemented.  Heck, it starts at home, parents, sisters, etc. get involved and teachers follow-up!  Should the bullies be at fault - NO!  They also need to be taught.  

I found an article in the Times that discusses the new anti-bullying laws.  The Tyler Clementi (Rutgers student) suicide put the wheels in motion for these laws.  His suicide was not the only suicide linked to bullying. Individuals whom are bullied often feel isolated from the world with no one to help them, so at times they end their lives.  According to  Cohen (2011), "New Jersey schools must conduct extensive training of staff and students; appoint safety teams made up of parents, teachers and staff; and launch an investigation of every allegation of bullying within one day"* Anything to put an end to a child's pain and suffering I am for!  Please read the entire article for the bigger picture on the anti-bullying law for NJ @  http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2091994,00.html  

I tell my children almost daily that they are special, smart, beautiful, unique and don't let anyone else tell them different.  I also encourage them to speak up and not to judge others. Being popular doesn't mean being mean, rude, or bullying others. 

Feel good about yourself, Help someone today!  Gossip hurts - end it now! Support anti-bullying!  Bullying affects people.   
Determined D. xo

I can always be contacted via email for questions and opportunities: danaarev@gmail.com

References:  Cohen, A. (2011). "Why NJ's Anti-bullying Law Should Be a Model for Other states. Time:  http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2091994,00.html#ixzz1XqmjXHbU

Disclosure:  The messages in this entry are in no way meant to offend others.  My opinions are definitely strong on this subject, but it is a very serious matter. Those that think its unnecessary are entitled to their opinions also, I respect all opinions.  But remember its children, young adults, teens, and even adults, that we are talking about. Bullying is a serious issue that should not be ignored.  Thank you! 


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