Building Your Child's Self-Esteem & Confidence

Building Your Child's Self-Esteem & Confidence

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Building Your Child's Self-Esteem & Confidence by Dana Arevalo
Dedicated to my two angels ~ my two beautiful children. I love you.
Our children listen to every word we say, watch every action, and follow our lead.  What type of example do we set for them?  Building a child's self-esteem and confidence is an imperative parenting responsibility. 
The principal at my children's school reinforces in every school newsletter and at every school meeting “Parents are the child's first teacher”.  It is true.  If we tolerate disrespect, they will.  If we put up with bullying, they will.  If we have respect and self-worth, they will.  If we have self-confidence, they will.  If we  teach them how to say “NO” without feeling bad, they will.  Parents serve as role models for their child/children.  We will make mistakes along the way and depending upon how we react to the mistakes, will make a difference.   No matter what, always keep in mind children are always following our lead, so do your best to set a positive example.
Children are delicate beings and they need our support at all times.  They often react to situations without thinking things through because they have to be taught how to react in a positive manner.   
Some helpful hints on building your child's self-esteem and confidence: 
·         Evaluate your own self-esteem as a person.  Make changes as you see fit. 
·         Play with them often.  When a child asks you to play with them, they are seeking attention in a positive manner.  Play away even when you feel tired. 
·         Set them up for success. 
·         Teach them never to be afraid to speak up.  Communication is extremely important.  Teach them early on how to communicate in a positive manner, especially when something is bothering them. Don't let them hold their feelings inside. 
·         Give them their own responsibilities.  Praise them for doing a job well-done; they will feel important. 
·         Focus on their abilities and provide direction.  Let them know, wow, you really do this well, have you considered enrolling in (whatever their ability is).  
·         Always have a “You can DO IT!” attitude.  If they believe they can, they will. 
Recently, I sat and watched a child's Jiu Jitsu class, and the instructor communicated an important message to the children.  “When you walk, hold your head up high and be confident.”  You do not want to invoke fear upon someone, however, you want that person to know you have self-confidence; they will sense it.  Teach your children to walk with their head up high and love who they are! 
References:  Sears, M. & W. Drs.  (n.d.).  12 Ways to Help Build Your Child's Self-Confidence.  Link: http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/child-rearing-and-development/12-ways-help-your-child-build-self-confidence.
Bio:  Dana Arevalo truly loves blogging, writing, reading, and learning new things. When she was in grade-school, she longed to become a writer. Professionally she holds a B.S. in Psychology and a MBA from UMUC.  She aspires to become an adjunct professor and write a novel.  Bullying is an issue close to her heart as she experienced it first-hand.  She lives in NJ and has school aged children whom she teaches to "always believe in themselves" and "never judge others".  Dana believes, "Blogging allows me to freely express my feelings in detail without judgment".        

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