How Height Influences Relationship Choices?

Posted by Dana R. Arevalo 

Written by Charlene Mattson

Think you’re choosing your mate based on things like personality and intellect? Well, you could still be falling prey to physical aspects whether you know it or not! Maybe you don’t care whether a girl is size 2, blond and buxom or a guy is muscular, dark haired and clean shaven, but are you attracted to a man who is shorter than you or a woman who is taller than you?

Studies done on relationships and height say, probably not!

Men tend to choose shorter females for partners and women tend to choose taller males. In part, this should be obvious; after all, men are on average about five inches taller than women. But of course there are short men and tall women, so you’d think that they would have the same chance at getting together as tall men with short women; however, this may not be the case. In fact, statistically speaking, the pairing is kind of rare!

A study done in the UK analyzed 10,000 couples. This study found that 92.5% of couples had a tall man and a shorter women; on average, men were 5’10” and women were 5’4”; a difference of 5.5 inches. All right, so we can say that a lot of that is due to the fact that most men are taller than most women. And if 200 men and women were sorted into couples, odds are that one pairing would have one tall woman and one short man. But in reality, this only happens in about 1/720 couples.

Do Tall Men Have More Fun?

Research done in the past has seemed to say that taller men are more likely to become married men, have more children, and appear more attractive. Tall men give women the ability to wear high heels without looking silly and many women dream about men who are tall enough that the woman can ‘fit under their chin’.

But like everything else, it’s all about moderation. Studies have found that a woman looks for men who are no more than 17% taller than them; any taller and they are no longer as attractive to them. Of course there are exceptions, but in general, men who are too tall may have as many problems finding love as men who are too short!

Evolutionary Heightism?

So why is that women drool over the tall guys and men like to tower over women? According to biology professor David Carrier, the answer probably lies in our ancestors. The idea was that taller men could better defend themselves, their mates and their offspring. Taller men had an advantage in a fight and therefore, were in a better position to pass on their genes. Obviously women don’t want men who pummel each other, but tallness is a throwback to when men had to defend their families, with tall men having the advantage and therefore being more attractive. You don’t have to like it, but it’s hard to deny the mushy feelings many women get around a tall man!

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Many men fantasize about the tall ‘Amazon’ woman and the many women marry shorter men. However, these exceptions sometimes fall under scrutiny with some people claiming ulterior motives. Overall though, most women are attracted to taller men and most men are attracted to shorter women.

Height is just one part of the equation in attraction and there are always plenty of exceptions. It’s just interesting to know how height impacts our choice of mates and what we are thinking about when considering what is attractive. Like it or lump it; the idea of a man being taller than a woman is one that will be with us forever more and it’s worth understanding to some extent.


Charlene Mattson is an enthusiastic and passionate writer who has been writing over a lot of areas throughout her life including finance, investment, debt, nutrition, health to name a few. Currently she is associated with Grow Taller 4 Idiots, which provides excellent advice and tips on height growth. 


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