Dealing With The Emotional Impact Of Infertility
Fertility is a health battleground that we’re ever learning more about. We’re learning more treatments, more alternatives, and more way to improve your chances of getting the result you want. However, mental and emotional health are the sides of health that often go willfully ignored. There are taboos, there’s pain there, and plenty of fear. However, learning to accept your emotions and manage your responses can help save you a lot of unnecessary pain. Don’t suffer in silence anymore.
Learn more about what’s happening
Fear is one of the feelings that most often dealt with when going through fertility treatments. Not only the fear of being unable to see the result you want. But there’s a fear of the medical side of things, as well. The medicines you take, the procedures you might choose to undergo, the costs of them all. They bring an uncertainty to what we feel should be a natural process. Getting educated on the aspects of what’s happening, from the issues affecting your fertility to the procedure of IVF and other treatments can help you keep an even keel. You can have a better idea of what’s happening and you can feel less fear and confusion going forward. Talk about the options with your doctor and your partner, explain any fears you have, see if they’re founded or unfounded, and put yourself to rest when possible.
There’s another factor to the emotional trauma of dealing with infertility and that’s the feeling of being alone that’s easy to feel. It might look like you’re the only woman you know having that issue, and you can feel embarrassed to address it or the feelings that it’s making you feel. However, you might have a lot more support around you than you think. Your family and partner might not be able to empathize completely, but they can help you see things from a different perspective when it feels like your own is hopeless. There are also online support groups with plenty of women who have gone through the same difficulties and are still going through it. They can help you understand what to expect and how to cope with the kind of experience that medical professionals might not always be able to.
Managing your responses
There are going to be times that you get angry with yourself, not only because you perceive a failure that isn’t really your fault. Sometimes, seeing things in daily life, such as pregnant friends, baby showers, or strollers can elicit a much more emotional outward response that you imagined. Practising mindful meditation and inspecting your reactions can help you gain a sense of control over those responses while acknowledging and accepting the validity of those feelings in your mind.
Staying educated, staying in touch with your feelings, and getting some perspective can do a lot to help you through a tough time. You will face feelings of failure, fear, envy, and much more. But you don’t have to let them overrun you. You can come out stronger on the other side.